Warning to Facebook Bullies
The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.
— Omar Khayyam
When someone cursed me on Facebook I believed it was my moral responsibility to defend my rights and person. A guy named Carl Tomacruz had to drop his manners and whatever he learned from his GMRC class back in elementary (perhaps) to deal with me. In a certain Facebook group, I never directly dealt or argued with Mr. Tomacruz who, I think, is educated. I thought this guy needed to learn how to behave like a rational human being. In a brazen display of empty arrogance and vulgarity, Mr. Carl Tomacruz posted the following comment:
“Jonas, why don’t we lynch this capitalist/libertarian for what he’s worth. He’s free to keep his ideologies… six feet under.”
I didn’t have any idea who Mr. Tomacruz was, but I felt that that statement was written by a humanoid who does not belong on earth. I thought this guy needed to learn some lesson so I sent him a message. In reply to his distasteful statement, I told him the following: “That clear statement is offensive, unnecessary, unethical, harsh, uncalled for and annoying on my part. If you’re educated, which I think you are, you should know the consequences of your actions. Everyone must be responsible and accountable for his/her actions. This is part of man’s common sense and natural law. I will NEVER, NEVER let it pass! If you’re brave enough, please give me your complete name and address. Let us settle this thing in a proper forum once and for all. If I need to make a landmark case out of this incident, then by all means I’ll have to do it. But you have recourse, as part of our democratic process as they call it. I demand your public apology for that. Absent such apology, I will have no recourse but to seek redress for my grievances.”
Perhaps after realizing that he was wrong, he sent a private message to me apologizing for what he did. He stated: “I assure you, that it wasn’t me who made that false account. I may jeer and throw insults at people whom I disagree in discussions, but I would never go THAT far. If I were the perpetrator, I would be spending time manning that account. But my account’s online, almost 24-7.”
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Prior to this incident, someone used my name and photo to bully me online. Some members of a Facebook group called “I Support Reproductive Health Bill” saw nothing wrong with appropriating a person’s identity if, philosophically or ideologically, you’re not part of the group. Perhaps, my opposition to that controversial Reproductive Health Bill being pushed in Congress was the reason why Mr. Carl Tomacruz had to drop his manners and curse me online.
Mr. Carl Tomacruz offered to make a public apology for what he did. He made me believe he was sincere in issuing an apology.
The following is a conversation between Mr. Carl Tomacruz and me:
My message: “By the way, in regard to the stealing of identity incident, that’s just fine. And don’t be too defensive. Don’t be too obvious. I’m not accusing you of being the perpetrator. I think you people who’re applauding it are guiltier than that stupid guy who made it. Oh, this makes me think why in heaven or hell the Germans just kept mum while Hitler was burning the Jews and the world during the reign of Nazism. I suggest that you read “The Wave.” There’s also a movie version of it.”
Carl Tomacruz: “The Wave”? Yes, it’s a good film. I got an adrenaline rush from watching it.
I’m sorry, man. I suppose I’ll have to tone down my language, then Unfortunately, “debating” is what gets me riled up, riled up to call a death threat even if in jest.
I’m willing to apologize. But where would you want me to issue it? In the Reproductive Health Bill page, or in some other website?”
My message: “I cannot accept your apology here. I’d like you to make a public apology. You have been acting like a savage, an uneducated person or a hippie in that Facebook group. There’s only ONE way to argue one’s cause, and this is by arguing it in a nice way. That’s not the proper way how to debate, if that’s how you call it. I will still find ways to locate your exact address. Those comments which you posted, I think, have no room in a rational, civilized world. No, I cannot tolerate such rude, offensive, malicious and bad-mannered actuation which came from an alleged educated person.
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You even attempted to mislead me by assuming I was accusing you of creating such a fake account even after you deleted that derogatory, unethical comment of yours. I’m sorry, Mr. Tomacruz, but I have no patience with people like you. I’d like to say that most of you who hang in that group are disgusting! You all cry self-sacrifice and helping other people but the way you reacted to criticism simply negated your self-advertised personality.”
Carl Tomacruz: I’m writing my apology as we speak. I’ll post it in the Reproductive Health Bill Page rrght away. You’ll have to forgive me for I’m not that eloquent in writing in length. Don’t worry; it WILL be posted. That I can assure you.
“Anyway, I’m genuinely sorry for my words. The internet is a beautiful medium of communication, but it carries the dangers of user committing irresponsible actions with the “safety” of impunity. I’ve learned it the hard way that even within this cyber-arena we are still accountable for whatever we say.
I’m done with the apology, and I tried to post it in the Wall earlier. However, it’s too big to be posted. Anyway, here it is. I’ll try to figure out how to post it publicly.
A public apology to Vince Bersamina:
Recently, I made a comment in one of Mr. Bersamina’s links. I said, “Jonas, why don’t we lynch this capitalist/libertarian for what he’s worth. He’s free to keep his ideologies… six feet under.” They were said in jest, and were not meant to be taken seriously. I have absolutely no intentions of physically harming him, or anyone whom I disagree with. My remarks were not those of educated people, but irritable louts who shout down anyone with dissenting opinion. Mea culpa.
While the right to free speech allows us to voice out our thoughts in a public forum like this page, we must still exercise restraint, and observe proper decorum, and repect the view of the other. I realize, in hindsight, that Mr. Bersamina has as much right to his opinion as we do. I remember my heated debate with a theology professor years ago, who told me amicably: “…we can always agree to disagree without being disagreeable.” Never before have those words rung true until now.
Once again, Mr. Bersamina, I am sincerely and deeply sorry. Please accept my apologies. This has been an eye-opener for me to develop tolerance, patience, and respect for others’ beliefs. I am humbled from this experience, and shall strive to be more watchful of my words. May we all put this ghastly episode aside, and continue to discuss – in Mr. Bersamina’s words – in a nice way.
My message: “May we all put this ghastly episode aside, and continue to discuss – in Mr. Bersamina’s words – in a nice way.”
I don’t want to deal with barbaric savages. It is impossible to argue or even to talk to a herd of hippies who disregard reason and objective code of ethics and who employ unethical means in order to stop, humiliate and annoy any potential dissenter.
Again and this would be the last, I demand public apology. I cannot believe that a person of age- never mind the education- could simply utter such malicious and vexatious statements “in jest.” This is an insult to my person.
Now I just learned from a friend that Mr. Carl Tomacruz was telling people that I bullied him or threatened to file a case against him. There’s no need for me to threaten anyone. His statement is clear, as he suggested to someone that I needed some “lynching” perhaps for being intransigent in my views. I am pro-capitalist but not a Libertarian. In fact I totally reject Libertarianism. I call myself an Objectivist. Was he sincere? Only Mr. Carl Tomacruz knows…